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Do You Live To Work Or Work To Live?

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Finding work which is compatible with your essential nature is a primary way to achieve emotional health.

Work consumes so much of our lives that we have to question sometimes whether we are married to our jobs. Indeed, we often spend more time with our colleagues at work than we spend with our families and friends. Work is a refl ection of what we are able to do in the world. If we are emotionally, mentally, and physically sound...and if we are engaged in work compatible with our basic abilities...our work can be a way of feeling alive, productive, and helpful to others and ourselves. Work can feel exciting and challenging. But we need to do the “right” which is consistent with what we love doing. If our work is wrong for us, it can be a source of endless frustration and unhappiness for us and those in our lives.

The nature of work is changing in our world today. It used to be that one wage earner could provide for a family, buy a house and car, and accumulate a good pension and savings account. Now it often takes two workers in a household to provide the same comforts, and even with two it’s now more of a struggle. We used to believe that landing a good corporate or government job was the route to a good life, but that former reality has now become a myth as corporations and governments downsize. Statistics indicate that the average person must now expect to change jobs several times throughout a career. More people are working for smaller companies, often with the expectation that the job will last for a limited time. Many people delve into self-employment and entrepreneurial pursuits. Rather than seeing this new reality in a negative light, it may be more productive to view it as an invitation to examine what work means in our lives, how much money we really need to live a happy and meaningful life, and what type of work we should really be doing. This means taking a look within.

Many of us go into a certain type of work because our families and friends have expectations for us and what we should be doing with our lives... so that we often choose our line of work without examining its consequences for our lives. We may end up feeling that we spend our lives performing for others and seldom for ourselves. It is not long before we feel completely drained and frustrated about never doing what we want to do. When our work is incompatible with our basic nature, we perform poorly and often harbor anger about having to work at all. There is a high probability of stress and burn-out on the job. This can have a powerfully negative impact on our self-image, not to mention our productivity and enjoyment of life.

Our work should be compatible with our basic interests and needs. Humans are social beings: we engage in work during our productive years to provide both for the larger good and for ourselves. No person is an island. The ability to work well is a sign of emotional health, of being able to live fully. It can give us an avenue for expressing our intellect, our physical abilities, our social com–petence, and our emotional needs. The amount of money or status derived from one’s work is not necessarily a sign of its value in terms of emotional health: a fruit picker or cleaning person can fi nd as much meaning through their work as a bank president or powerful politician. It all depends on the person.

Take a look at some ideas to consider as you examine the nature of your work.

When our work is incompatible with our basic nature, we perform poorly.


The value a person places on his or her own being, comes from meeting life’s challenges, not avoiding them. Does your work allow you to be true to your innermost desires? Does it allow you to do your best at what you really want to do? Work which is compatible with one’s inner nature provides a sense of daily satisfaction and the confi dence to deal with diffi culties when they occur. When your work is right, you feel a sense of competence...and others see you as competent. You exude a feeling of being a positive person. Others sense this and give you positive cues in return. This then enhances your self-esteem even further. On the other hand, when we are not in the right kind of work, we may begin to feel clumsy, unmotivated, bored, cynical, frustrated... and it is only a matter of time before we begin to see ourselves in a negative light.

Think deeply about what you really enjoy doing.

Finding Your “Right” Work

The place to begin is within yourself. Thinking that you should be an artist or an accountant or a dental hygienist, just because these occupations might sound interesting to you, is not really the way to approach the question of fi nding your right work. The expectations other people place on certain kinds of work or the amount of money associated with a certain type of career may not address your own inner longings. Think deeply about what you really enjoy doing. And then take that activity to an abstract level. For example, if you enjoy cooking for others, on an abstract level you are really talking about being creative and nurturing other people. Think about work which involves creativity and nurturance, like working for or even starting a catering service, or social work, or teaching. Of course, your present job may actually be right for you: it’s perhaps a matter of looking within yourself to see what you need in life and then fi nding ways for your present work to fi ll these needs. Sometimes this just involves looking at what you have in a more positive light or thinking differently about what you already have. Or this could mean changing your activities on the job or being around different people at work. If your present job absolutely precludes your being able to be true to your own longings, and if you cannot make cognitive or behavioral changes, then it might be time to look into the possibility of changing your work altogether. The change does not have to be sudden. You may decide to keep your job but start a part-time business from your home...which may eventually become your full-time occupation. Your right work is that which allows you to do what you love, which lights up your inner being and allows you to flourish.

If you engage in work you love, there is a higher probability that you will make more money.

Discovering Your Limitations

Finding your right work involves not only a personal journey of discovery into what you like doing but also a recognition of those things which are not right for you. We like to see ourselves as people who are strong and can overcome any obstacle, and to a degree this is a healthy and lifeaffi rming approach. But there are realistic limits all of us have which, if recognized and accepted, can lead us to smoother and more adaptive life choices. Failing to accept these limitations is to invite an endless series of frustrations into your life. Examine the experiences which cause you unhappiness, particularly if they occur again and again. Like yourself for being a person who can recognize both the abilities and the limitations which characterize your life...for you then have a more integrated and reality-oriented personality. And your road to discovering your right work becomes much easier to travel.

Show Me The Money!

Think about the rewards you can get from your work. Money is one of them, but it is hardly everything. You may also enjoy the psychic rewards of social contacts, the ability to be productive, the feeling of being true to yourself or the sense of a job well done. The rewards you derive from work can be as diverse as your individual needs. Some types of work bring few monetary rewards, but consider this: if you engage in work you love, there is a higher probability that you will make more money. Your output will be of higher quality, and this will be recognized by others. The product of your labor will refl ect your inner strivings, your zeal for life, and your motivation to make your life and your work the best it can be.

The quest for right work, in short, requires nothing less than a deep look into your inner life. It means fi nding out who you are and what you do best. It means defi ning yourself as a unique individual and discovering ways to be true to your distinctiveness. Therapy is a way of embarking on this journey.

Take A Look Within

Many people who grow to old age take an inventory of their lives. They identify their dreams and recognize their limitations.They defi ne their essential nature and come to terms with what their lives are about. They often decide at this point to live the “true life,” to drop all their false expectations and to live the rest of their lives with integrity. But why wait till old age to do this?

  • What is your real purpose in life? What gives your life meaning?
  • What can you do, on a day-to-day basis, to engage in activities which refl ect the true purpose in your life?
  • What are your limitations? Can you come to see that accepting your limitations is as important in achieving wholeness in your life as focusing just on your abilities?
  • Make up a list of things you really enjoy doing (gardening, organizing, reading, caring for others, leading others, solving problems, listening to music, socializing, being excited, and so forth)
  • Does your work include these activities?
  • Do you have social support (family, friends, a therapist, a support group) which encourages you in a positive way to be true to who you need to be?
  • What are the things that block you from living a life of full integrity?
  • Can you take small, incremental steps, starting today, to build the life you really want for yourself?

Your Work As Play...

Those who find their right work sometimes comment that there is no difference between playing and working.They love the work they do. Their work refl ects their inner strivings, their life force. They feel fully alive when engaged in their work. They lose track of time and focus on the moment. Their best qualities are expressed through their work.

But then we get to the question: how is this any different from an addiction? Isn’t this person just a workaholic? Doesn’t this person rely on one source of gratifi cation to the exclusion of all other life pursuits? The addicted person lacks free will. The workaholic lives a constricted life, trapped within an obsessive world without choices. On the other hand, those who fi nd their right work can constantly grow and can experience their pleasures both through work and also through avenues other than their work.

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