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Barbara's Story

From drifting to directed

Situation

Barbara was a “career drifter.” She had graduated with a bachelor’s degree in marketing and had worked as an assistant account executive for an international consumer packaged goods company. However, when she introduced herself to us, she was unhappily working as a waitress in an underperforming tourist destination restaurant. She didn’t know what she wanted to do or which direction to move and she had been living paycheck to paycheck for too long. She didn’t see an exit from the career and life she had fallen into. 

Although Barbara’s career had derailed at some point, as we came to know her in session and through exercises, we discovered that other factors contributed to her unhappiness. Her career was merely suffering from a symptom of the larger problem: perfectionism.

Resolution

JMA sought to find resolution to the career problem Barbara presented, through a holistic approach. On one hand, we needed to help her discover her passions again. On the other, if we didn’t address her perfectionistic thought patterns, we knew that her unhappiness would persist no matter where she found herself.

On the career front, Barbara was all over the map. In early assessment exercises at JMA, she had identified everything from river guide to travel agent as possible jobs she might enjoy. Through a series of exercises, JMA found that Barbara enjoyed physical activity, working with her hands, and the tangible world. This explained why she hadn’t stayed in her original field, marketing. This insight also enabled us to narrow the field of possible careers she might find rewarding. After four sessions, Barbara fixed upon carpentry as something she would like to pursue next. 

She didn’t necessarily need to find the career that would take her through retirement. She just needed to know where to place her next step. This is an important distinction. For people who wrestle with perfectionistic tendencies, decisions become difficult because of a self-imposed permanence. In other words, Barbara feared making a choice because she thought she had to find an answer that would hold true throughout the rest of her life. Her fear was further complicated by the doubts caused by a couple of mediocre career decisions.

Perfectionism plagued her in another way, as well. Not only did she expect the utmost of herself, but she expected it of others, too. Within ten sessions and two months of diligent homework, Barbara started to gain some self-confidence, saw the world in more than black and white, and learned how to give people a break, including herself. “It’s OK not to be flawless every step of the way,” she wrote.

While Barbara has always had the skills to persevere through adversity, she now says about herself, “I have a lot less fear and trepidation as I act. It’s less of a mental struggle … and I have a better feeling of being at home in my skin, as I attempt the next thing.” Further, JMA had worked out an ongoing system with Barbara that would continue to increase her self-esteem, reduce her fear, and manage her excessive standards. JMA also helped her identify a blueprint that strategically positioned her for a successful career in carpentry.

Outcome

Barbara writes or calls periodically and lets us know how her career and life are progressing. In a recent update, she wrote, “I successfully graduated from the Chicago Women in Trades Technical Opportunities Program. … I was chosen by my class to give a speech at my graduation, for which I received a standing ovation. It will also be included in the [school’s] newsletter.”

She also has developed a support network of friends she met in her training program and her new career is off to a promising start: “[I] had a review a month or two ago, and my boss told me she considers me to be one of the best. Several of my workmates have told me that they like working with me most.” Barbara continues to love her chosen trade of carpentry and has successfully minimized the perfectionistic tendencies that once plagued her.

 

Please note: The names of clients, their employers and certain identifying details have been changed to respect their privacy and maintain confidentiality.

 

If opportunity doesn't knock, build a door."

-- Milton Berle
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